I am a Healer, Psychologist, educator and Sound Therapist with an avid interest in consciousness and transpersonal experiences. Oh and did I mention Astrology?
I have been dithering about over a couple of quite interesting options that have cropped up in my life recently. It seems I relish dilemmas even though they drive me mad as I pick apart the pros and cons. Those astrologers amongst you are rightly asking if I have a Libran moon - yes, of course I do! It is therefore part of my character to see not just two sides to every coin but a thousand facets to each of those sides.
To say this makes me indecisive is perhaps an understatement. However, when I know, I really know and there are no questions in my mind at all. These moments come, not just because something is so obviously right, but mostly when I am calm and centred. It is in these moments that I can 'cut through the crap' and really see the essence of the situation.
Indecision can make us fearful as we dither between options. It is part of human nature to believe that when we finally make a decision that means we have to relinquish any possibility of the other tempting choice. Decision-making therefore feels like the destruction of alternate pathways over which we may have regrets later down the line. This can occur whether the decision is life changing or of minor importance.
Fear itself however is probably the greatest factor in creating indecision. At these moments we are blinded by our own insecurities and emotional responses. Making a decision at this time may not be a good idea as it is not possible to evaluate the situation from a relatively objective stand point...
and you know what - it is OK to say I don't know!
I have often said that I have never made a decision in my life. Quite simply, as said before, if I know the answer then there is no question at all. It is just an accepted fact that this is what has to be done. On the other hand if I am dithering about and questioning every possible angle then I need to walk away and create space for myself to go quietly within and reassess my own reactions, belief systems and habitual behaviours as it is these that are creating this state of uncertainty. Once I am able to contact a place of peace it is as if the decision makes itself. I would not suggest that this is particularly easy to achieve in all circumstances but it certainly resolves a great many issues very quickly.